Filtering your Conversation

The other day my wife and I had a discussion about culture and my upbringing and hers. I grew up in in a Belgian family that was very open to each other, maybe a little too much. No filtering in what we say can be very volatile and harmful.  Our first years of marriage were just like that. Then I realized what every man should find out early in his married life. I found out about the importance of filtering out my words in conversation.  That helped a lot and I was changed and so did my whole family.

It was much easier to heal as an individual and as a family.

As for your anger and rage?  Pause before you open your mouth and think on a scale of 1-10.  How important is the issue compare to the value of your marriage, relationship or family?  Then calm down and think of a way to fix that issue with whoever is of interest.  Even just your health depends on that as your blood pressure rises every time you get violently angry.  Anger can be controlled.

You will find through wisdom and with time that a lot of your issues are not worth mentioning.  My secret weapon though is still prayer and I know that my prayers are always heard.

They say in English that "Silence is gold" and it is far more than that because silence always offers you an alternative to anger and that's reflection and solutions.  

Release, Release and Relax

Bernard Demaere

 

One of the greatest lesson

That Christ taught me,

Was in the Garden,

Before he died,

 

It was for

Prayer

And

Relationships

 

Nevertheless,

Not my will

But yours

Be done

 

It is,

Release!

 

Release God,

Do not hold on!

 

Let go of people,

Let them do

What they want!

 

Let go of God,

He wants to do it

 

But he can’t

If you are holding on!

 

Release, release, and Relax

 

The world is still going around

Without you holding onto it,

 

Release, release, and Relax!