Poetry Lovers by B.Demaere

No need to apologize to a dead person that was overcome by addictions or someone who just committed suicide. Maybe people apologize to loved ones who have passed away to deal with their own grief or to appease their own guilt.  Nevertheless, what's the point? Help was just not there when that person deserved it. Many people with addiction and mental illness feel that way.  Where is all the help that, "they 'promised' me?" Is your life so important that someone else's doesn't matter? How can you help someone in need? 1) Listen without judging (important).  They won't come back if you judge 2) Just be a friend (you might be the only one)' 3) Keep it confidential 4) Take 'concrete' steps to help  (Actually do something for that person) 5) It's just too easy to give up on someone who has 'problems') (I am just writing this post in response to a tweet I just read, it troubled me. Many people are just 'there for you', but not ...

The other day my wife and I had a discussion about culture and my upbringing and hers. I grew up in in a Belgian family that was very open to each other, maybe a little too much. No filtering in what we say can be very volatile and harmful.  Our first years of marriage were just like that. Then I realized what every man should find out early in his married life. I found out about the importance of filtering out my words in conversation.  That helped a lot and I was changed and so did my whole family. It was much easier to heal as an individual and as a family. As for your anger and rage?  Pause before you open your mouth and think on a scale of 1-10.  How important is the issue compare to the value of your marriage, relationship or family?  Then calm down and think of a way to fix that issue with whoever is of interest.  Even just your health depends on that as your blood pressure rises every time you get violently angry.  Anger can be controlled. You ...