Poetry Lovers by B.Demaere

Worry is a powerful force. Just imagine that you don't have it and then keep meditating on that and this is essentially what worry is.  A fruitless activity full of nonsense.  Something you do without considering the consequences of lost time.  Total foolishness and yet we (humans) do it all the time.  I used to waste 1/2 of a lifetime turning around and around in my mind and worrying about the future.  Now life is much more than what you don't have.  Well, isn't that a laughable concept 'much more than what you don't have'. Now turn that to positive and worry becomes a vision.  What? you can turn worry into a vision. Okay! Worry is a vision alright.  You just see something you don't have and wished you had it and keep looking at it as long as you allow yourself to do it.  Worry is a sin so we just have to quit it. The vision of something you have realized is not new.  A lot of people saw things before they happened and as God showed it ...

When you think of it, hope is more necessary than our daily food.  What would we do without hope in the world? Surely all of us have some kind of hope in someone or something.  That hope and expectation is what keep us believing in ourselves or someone else. What would we do or be if we had completely lost hope? There is not enough money in the world to buy hope.  Another word for 'hope' is rest.  To have rest in your soul how wonderful that would be? Yet so many people have lost hope in humanity or the politics of this world. They are ready to look somewhere else, but where? Dreams, that is where it all starts.  You have to have dreams bigger than yourself.  Your God's given dream, so impossible to reach that it would take heaven to move that mountain that is in the front of you. Do not neglect your dreams, but hang on to them.  Though they might be delayed. There is still hope in the bell while it's still ringing. The world is under going a fire in m...

Frustration is not a bad emotion as long it is directed to yourself.  Once it gets to be destructive toward other people it becomes unbearable to them, so I guess our frustration can wait.  I am being sarcastic. Although frustration is anger turned inward, it needs to be talked about and dealt with whatever our religious beliefs are.  Well, is it a normal emotion like anger is?  Is anger a good emotion? Yes it is but not the destructive kind.  So what about frustration?  Nobody speak about it in speeches or discussions, nobody deals with it.  Maybe we don't know how. But we sure can experience it at any time of the day. We are just frustrated about frustration I guess and we settle for the status quo.   We are just going to stay like that till our dying days.  What a life? The things I find about my frustration is that it shows up its ugly head when I am unable to do something in a timely manner, like being the handyman around the house ...

Some things are more touchy than others to speak about but I think I am ready to talk about it now.  I just hope you are all ready to receive it. What is that silent enemy? 1) It's one nobody wants you to talk about 2) It's one that you don't want to talk about to anybody. Why? Because shame is attached to it. People as good as they may sound to be like to make other feel ashamed of the bad you have done. If the truth hurts you right now it's because it hits close to home and maybe I will have zero comment because of it.  I am angry in a good way at the world because I want the world to change and no longer make the minority feel ashamed.  Shame is a very negative state of mind.  It disable people of all walk of life.  We can see it happening in the news right now.  It needs to stop. I am not talking about one issue just now but many. But yes I am talking about this one issue and that is "Suicide" Like I say many issues involve putting shame on one group or...

The subjects I choose for this blog are often not very deep and small but a little in one's life can do a lot and change the course of your life in a big way.  You find this out in two roads diverging from each other in a small way but they end up leading to two different cities one thousand kilometers from each another. In dealing with life in general and because of my mental illness I have learned to make things simpler and I have actually been encouraged to work in that direction by other people. One of the difficulties I have had is to meet the expectations of perfectionists and consequently I frustrate them unwilling quite often. So the best I can do for anybody is to work on my good attributes and abilities and make them even better.  I have learned to just make my shiny side even shinier and really polish it brighter. For example, if you are a somewhat patient person work on being really good at it and at least you will have one of the quality that the world seeks the m...

Along with my mental illness came negative feelings and voices that would have put some in danger if I had followed through with them.  Fortunately, through many hours of counselling and help through medications it came under control.  I don't take those negative voices lightly anymore, but very seriously.  Along with those negative voices came negative speech that produced anger and division.  Thankfully, I have appreciated more and more what my mental illness has done for me and I have learned in the process to moderate those voices as well. I don't hang on to negative thoughts too much and try to catch myself on time before depression sets in and negative attitudes follow.  Negativity can be like a wild fire if not kept in check.  Our unfiltered words are the ones that cause the most damage in our lives.  We should not automatically assume that people will forgive us because the damage could be irreparable in their lives and put them on a path of de...

We hear a lot about masking and unmasking these days.  We often hear about the duty of wearing a mask for protection of self and others.  It seems that wearing a mask in our personality has now become materialized in wearing one on our face. We find out now that wearing a mask is not as healthy for us as it is claimed to be.   Life is not allowing us to wear masks but we are determined to do it. You have heard it right a mask is to protect yourself and want to cover every part of ourselves as much as we can.  We like to cover the truth about ourselves and we succeed by wearing different masks. The truth, it is the reality about us and who we are. We are afraid of showing up to people the beauty of who we are and some of us carry baggage with all our ugly stuff to be unloaded in moments of loneliness and anger.  It seems to show up at our most vulnerable times. It is perhaps high time to unmask the truth not necessarily to others but to our self or to God.  ...

The family is supposed to operate as a molecule of interdependent cells (I have no idea what I am talking about I just find physics and chemistry fascinating).  I did have a chemistry set as a child, one of the best gift to buy a child with an inquisitif mind.  Just be careful who you get it for because it can be dangerous. Anyway, back to the mystery of molecules, a force holds the cells together like a family.  I would think that these cells within that molecule are attracted to each other to build something solid like a table or a chair.  This is not a scientific paper and I am not a scientist.  I am just one who likes to drive them nuts. I know cells don't have brains and decide on building a table but what I am suggesting is a broad idea of what a family or a group of people might look like.  There is a power connecting them like electricity.  One depends on the other and as they each grow up and mature that dependence should grow as well or the m...

Fathers are valuable beings in children's formation not just the mothers. They set the right values in a home and the standards of moral.  They are much needed. I am glad I had a dad and when I look around I am glad my dad stack around all his life.  So many fathers have left the coop for whatever reason.  I can honestly say that it hurts my heart to see single mothers looking after their children without a father. My dad was dedicated to his family and we always had food on the table. He had to be very busy because of his business in body shop and that I miss, the interaction with him on the emotional level.  I think maybe my children missed that too.  I urge every father to be there for their children, not just physically but emotionally.  It will save them a lot of regrets and sorrow later. I wish all the fathers out there a wonderful day with their family whether you are in a country that celebrates Father's day or not.   Here is a poem that descri...

Oh it just doesn't work, I have tried a million times (slight exaggeration there!)  We try this all the time in life.  We try a system for so many years and arrive at the same conclusion..."Why bother?  We have been out smarted!" We work on a system and repeat the same things over the years and never take into account that people's likes and dislikes change over the years.  Why does it have to be the same all the time.  Why not change a few things or start it all over? Same things with mental illness.  Sometimes a change in a routine is very valuable.  A change in the way you deal with yourself or others can make a huge difference in your life.   It happened to me too, I had to change through many changes to find the balance in the system I was caught in.  My mental system was out of wack, it needed a change or balance.  Any system in yourself or in the world that is out of wack is out of balance and need an overall soon or later.  ...

I should have talked about chocolate long time ago.  I am from Belgium, come on!  When things come down drastically in my depression or in normal time.  I rely on food to give me a pick-me up feeling...chocolate, anything with chocolate will do, but I have learn to moderate myself.  Because I realize that what goes up must also come down and that includes...your mood too. With me about chocolate I am partial towards Belgian chocolate but we cannot find it here so I go for Swiss.  Belgian chocolate brings back a lot of memories for me. Our Grandparents on special occasion would give us a candy called "Chokotoff" in dark chocolate made by Cote d'Or.  You can only find it online for a good sum.  They are delicious!  In Brussels, there is or used to be the Cote d'or factory at the South train station.  I would go daily by it on the tramway...Let me tell you! Chocolate always makes me dream about tropical countries and hot weather somewhere in Afr...